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"To understand yourself you must understand your values, needs, wants, how you perceive your past achievements and current goals."

How are we to understand ourselves we block out the bad days that taught us the most.

I've been working with a range of people from different cultures, professions, ages, and values throughout my professional career and there is one common pattern I notice, which is common during certain stages of life. It starts from the early teen years when not many are sure what their passion is or what they want to pursue.

Many teenagers end up studying or doing something they dislike and were not given a choice or the opportunity to pursue their own path. The funny thing is as we enter the workforce we end up compromising with ourselves. We say it's normal to do something we dislike as long as it keeps us busy and provides for the bare necessities of life.

This changes though as we reach a point where we realize we've wasted years of our lives doing things for others and conforming to society's norms. Most people call this a mid-life crisis, a stage in life where you realize you're not getting time back and now the time is the most precious thing in our life more than money.

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Some of us reach this awareness and turn their lives around to find happiness but others stay content with what they have and dare not leaving their comfort zone and forget about their true passion. They end up talking about regrets and wondering what could've, should've, would've happened. They just knew a bit sooner or had someone to guide them and give them a nudge in the right direction. 

I was the same as a teenager when I had no direction and was only interested in my own self-satisfaction, but as time went by my priorities shifted and I soon came to my own realization that my "me first" attitude was actually what made me so miserable. I then realized that by helping others, in this case, teaching, I learned more about myself and it helped me to see what my true values were and where my passion was.

Even after discovering my true passion I still had my own mental blocks that were limiting my options and perspective of what I could do and how I could continue my journey of self-development and awareness. Once I discovered my needs, wants, values, passion, and goals I was able to make a flexible plan that would lead me to various outcomes aligned with my values while removing my own self-limitations, worry, and doubt.

I started setting small wins for myself, I surrounded myself with like-minded people who would encourage, motivate, inspire, and help me find my own way through life. Having a background in psychology and an analytical talent, I decided to create a program. A simple but effective way of understanding one's decision-making process, the values or scenarios they craft around a simple decision, and how they tackle more difficult decisions.

Then looking at how they cope with bad decisions, are they able to manage change, do they enjoy challenges or prefer to stay safe in their bubble of content, how do they react to abrupt change and deal with the unexpected says a lot about what they value and how they limit themselves. This is not enough though, to understand those limitations we must look back at how we got to where we are, what sacrifices were made, how did we choose one option over another, what achievements did we set out to do and complete or did the achievements just happen without effort.

What are the most impacting moments in our past that shaped our mindset to what it is today? By digging deeper we are able to correlate the present to the future and start to envision where we see our journey taking us to the end or result from we hope to achieve. By knowing this one can truly live without regrets, accomplish anything, and overcome even the direst circumstances. The path to self-awareness lies with us and before us, we need only to map it out.

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